Ang Wikang Italyano para sa mga Pilipino - Bahagi 3: mga Regular at di-Regular na Pandiwa

"io dormo" ="ako ay natutulog"....kasama ng aso ko....sana hindi ako kagatin.... Ang mahirap tungkol sa wikang Italyano ay na mayroon maraming di-regular na mga berbo o pandiwa. Ang mahirap ay na may malaking pagkakaiba sa pagitan ng "base form" at ang "conjugated form". Sa Tagalog wala gaanong pagkakaiba: halimbawa ang "base form" ng pandiwang "pumunta" ay nagiging "pumunta", "pumupunta" at "pupunta". Pero ang katumbas na pandiwang Italyanong "andare", kapag ginagawa ang conjugation, ay nagiging: Io vado = ako ay pumupunta Tu vai = ikaw ay pumupunta Lui/lei va = siya ay pumupunta Noi andiamo = kami o tayo ay pumupunta Voi andate = kayo ay pumupunta Loro vanno = sila ay pumupunta Isip-isipin ninyo: ang "andare" ay nagiging "vado", "vai", "va" etc. Paano pwedeng matuto ng mga iyan? Wala ibang solusyon kundi matutuhan ang pangunahing mga berbo at isa

The Role of the "Ate" or Older Sister in a Filipino Family

If you marry a Filipina changes are that, in addition to being your wife, she is also her siblings' ate or older sister.

As I have already mentioned in my blog, when you marry a Filipina you basically (and actually literally) marry the entire family and, therefore, it is very important to understand the role your Filipina plays in the larger context of the intricate family relationships that are very strong in the Philippines and even among Filipinos abroad.

The "Culture Shock Philippines" book by Alfredo and Grace Roces says the following about the role of the ate: "Sisters play a very important role in Philippine families, especially older sisters. An older sister is called Ate by her siblings. Ate is responsible for the younger children and she may bathe, dress and feed them. This is necessary in large families where the mother cannot look after all the children. Older children are taught early that it is their duty to help take care of younger brothers and sisters. This provides them with training and experience in housewifely and motherly duties. The oldest girl assumes this role as soon as the second or third child comes along and not necessarily when she reaches a certain age. It is not uncommon to see a small child carrying a younger brother or sister who is more than half her size".

My wife was 10 years old when her father died and her mother moved to Saudi Arabia to work and she basically was the one who raised her younger brother.

Like my mother-in-law, many Filipinos move abroad and are forced to leave their children in the Philippines and often the ate takes up the role of the mother.

And even among Filipinos abroad who have managed to petition their children the ate often plays a major role because, more often than not, both parents work full-time, and even much more than full-time, and they have very limited time and energy to raise their children.

Here in Italy many Filipinos work live-in, meaning that they sleep in the house of their employers and, sometimes, there are employers who are not mabait (kind) enough to provide accomodation for the whole family of their Pinoy katulong (domestic helper).

I know a Filipino couple who had to rent an apartment for their children. The couple used to live in the house of their employer, as they were live-in katulong, while the kids used to live in another apartment and, sure enough, their older daughter raised her younger sister.

The special relationship between the ate and her siblings doesn't end when the siblings grow up: my wife, for example, went to great lengths to look for an employer for my bayaw (my wife's brother) and get him here and to this very day she gives him all the practical help he needs.

So, yes, a Westerner who wants to marry a Filipina has to take into account that the husband is not the only one a Filipina takes care of.

Many Filipinas have a lot of responsibilities toward a lot of people: they may have to pay back their utang na loob (debt of gratitude) to their old parents, and maybe to their uncles and other relatives as well, and they may have their younger siblings who show up every now and then when they need help (even if they are 40 or 50 years old...)

So, if you are thinking about marrying a Filipina, you'd better open your mind.

As I have abundantly mentioned in my blog, one of the keys to an amazing intimate relationship in general, and with a Filipina in particular, is letting go of resistance and practicing acceptance.

If you erect barriers and shields and behave like what the "Culture Shock Philippines" calls the Westerner who is "bashing the environment he himself has chosen to inhabit" your relationship won't go very far.

Because another major key to an amazing relationship is appreciation you need to learn to view the Filipino kin-group culture as an asset rather than a threat to your intimacy with your Filipina.


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